6. A DIFFICULT START TO MARRIAGE
The Bible recommends a whole year of honeymoon for every newly married couple
“When a man is newly married, he shall not go out with the army or be liable for any other public duty. He shall be free at home one year to be happy with his wife whom he has taken.” (Deuteronomy 24:5 ESV)
This long period of honeymoon is key for some reasons; one, it is important for a newly wedded couple to enjoy themselves before the rigours and complications of pregnancy come in. Couples need enough time to relax, play around, swim together, play games and really have fun as newly weds.
Two, couples need time to settle in marriage: they need to recover financially, settle psychologically and emotionally without being disturbed by anything or anybody. That’s why friends and family are advised to stay away during honeymoon.
Although, many nowadays, do their honeymoon with their boy/girlfriends and end up doing none with their husbands/wives.
That dream start is very key in every marriage; the memory lingers for so long. No one should miss that, even if it’s going to last for just one week. No wonder some couples decide not to have kids; they want to have enough of each other
However, when you begin your marriage in the middle of a pregnancy it could be very difficult and if care is not taken might cause frictions in the marriage.
Pregnancy is one of the most difficult experiences of any human. Women should really be given kudos. In case you don’t know, it’s much more serious that the ‘swollen’ tummy you see. It comes with so much pain, aches, nausea, discomfort, tiredness and anything inconvenient you can think of. An inexperienced young man might think he was better-off being a bachelor
Some women remain terribly sick for the 9months of pregnancy that they are unable to even cook or tidy up the house. Some would always vomit green, yellow, blue and different kinds of substances even on the dinning table
Some women become very hostile that everything you say gets them really angry; some are unable to place a comb on their hair let alone look fashionable. Some would spend days in the hospital monthly while to some, men become so irritating that they can’t even share a room with their husbands let alone making love. It’s a difficult time. No wonder some people call pregnant women “old woman.”
Such a man who probably is just coming up financially might spend a huge sum on medical bills. Buying baby things alone this days, you need not less than a hundred thousand. Besides, the emotional stress of not being able to sleep at night because someone is either shivering or groaning beside you could become a real burden especially if you have to be in the office early the next morning.
A young man who begins his marriage in the middle of these complications might conceive a wrong perception of marriage and might be unable to cope. Same applies to the lady who might struggle to adapt to her new environment. They might think marriage brings too much stress and complications
This is not to scare you or to exaggerate the situation but that these things are worth waiting, planning and getting settled for before they appear.
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